Hey there, fabulous readers!

Ever wondered why some people call it a "blowjob" when there's zero blowing involved? (Spoiler: It's more like a "suck-cess" story—get it? ) Well, buckle up (or unzip, if you prefer), because today we're diving headfirst into the art of the perfect BJ. Whether you're a newbie curious about the basics or a pro looking for fresh tips, this guide is all about making it fun, flirty, and fabulous for everyone involved. Remember, the best blowjobs come from a place of genuine excitement—no pun intended... okay, maybe a little. Let's turn up the heat and get to the good stuff!

To give a blowjob should be something you truly enjoy doing—otherwise, it might as well be a "blow-off" instead of a blowjob! (Sorry, couldn't resist the pun.) Seriously though, if it's not fun for you, it might not even be worth starting.

That's why practice is key—not just to get good at it, but to discover yourself, your boundaries, and your desires along the way. Fun fact: The word "fellatio" comes from the Latin for "to suck," dating back centuries, proving humans have been pondering this art form since ancient times!

There's a big difference between easing into blowjobs and deepthroating a 25cm shaft like in some porn films. :P

Pro tip: Leave the circus acts to the pros—most guys aren't expecting a sword-swallowing show anyway (or until YOU become pro—we all start somewhere, but let's get comfortable before we swing at 20 meters height).

No matter how "technically" skilled you are or how many tricks you know, nothing is sexier or more arousing than someone who genuinely wants to please and indulge in that fantasy or desire. A great blowjob is all about mutual enjoyment—for both the giver and the receiver. Personally, I get incredibly turned on by giving blowjobs; it's thrilling to enjoy another person and know they're enjoying me in return. Did you know? According to surveys, about 85% of men consider blowjobs an essential part of intimacy—talk about high demand!

You need to tap into your own desire to be playful and open, at your own pace. But I believe the most important factor for a great blowjob is that you actually want to suck and lick that cock. Techniques, tricks, and extras can come later as you gradually get comfortable with them. Take it slow—don't attack the cock unless you both share a "cock massacre" fantasy, of course. (And if that's your thing, hey, no judgment—fantasies are like pizza toppings; everyone's got their favorites!)

Every great blowjob ends with an orgasm; otherwise, for me, it's just oral sex as part of foreplay, not a true blowjob. A blowjob starts with teasing the man's cock and ends with him cumming from the same place. It's a "job," and it needs to be finished! :) No quid pro quo here—if you're giving a blowjob, you're the pleaser, and you suck until it's done. (That's my take, anyway—you can have whatever opinion fits you best. Just remember the golden rule: If it's not fun, it's not done right!) And remember, it's not me you're pleasing! The key is that it feels good for everyone, including the giver. Do what turns you on. There's no real right or wrong—just "ahh," "uhmm," "ohhh," and maybe an "ow!" now and then. Fun fact: On average, people perform or receive oral sex about 5 times a month—plenty of opportunities to perfect your craft!

Give yourself time and start gently. Tease him. You can absolutely give a quickie blowjob—spontaneous and naughty—but if you want to give him an extra-special experience, prepare a bit. Get him aroused before you unzip his pants: take off his shirt, touch him, kiss him, let him touch you so he gets really turned on. Maybe even strip slowly yourself, tie your hair back (nothing ruins the moment like hair in your mouth or on his cock—it's like finding a hair in your soup, but way less appetizing!). Spend time enjoying him and letting him enjoy you. Foreplay is crucial, and it's fun and flirty to play with it—put on a sexy outfit, light candles, send a naughty text earlier in the day about what's waiting for him when he gets home. Plan it and pull out all the stops. :P (Bonus joke: Why did the blowjob go to therapy? It had too many "attachment" issues—okay, I'll stop now.)

When the Cock Is Ready

Start gently, just like you would with regular caressing. Stroke it, let your fingers glide up and down the shaft. A huge part of the satisfaction when you finally take it in your mouth is the anticipation you've built up beforehand. Maybe even take his finger, put it in your mouth, lick it, and use your tongue while slowly sliding it in and out. You're mentally prepping and teasing him for what you'll do to his hard cock soon. It's a total turn-on! And I don't know about you, but when I feel the cock growing and getting ready, it makes me even more eager. Fun fact: In ancient Egyptian mythology, the goddess Isis resurrected her husband Osiris by fashioning a clay penis and... well, bringing it to life with her mouth. Talk about a legendary "blow" to death!

Once his cock is nearly fully hard (which it probably already is by now), bring your tongue into play. Lick the head gently—be careful, men are super sensitive there! Lick the head and down the shaft, make eye contact with playful, mischievous glances while you lick up and down, teasing the rim and tip of the head. Now you can slowly move one hand to the base and hold it there while you play. Then, softly let your mouth and lips slide down over the shaft in a slow, steady rhythm. Move your head back and forth (or up and down) in a smooth, gliding motion, making sure there's plenty of saliva for lubrication.

Watch out for teeth—better to be cautious and practice going deeper gradually. What touches the cock should be soft, warm, and wet, not sharp and hard. :P It's crucial (in my opinion) to develop a technique that avoids teeth altogether. Teeth and blowjobs are a total no-go. (Joke: Why don't sharks give blowjobs? Too many teeth—lesson learned from nature!)

Don't be afraid of the cock—love it!

Treat it like your favorite ice cream cone on a summer day! Lick it from every angle—suck it, lick it, use your tongue, hands, saliva, and maybe even some lube. Note: Not all lubes taste great, so choose a flavor-neutral one! For example, this one (link to DKButik.dk, our online sex and gift shop owned by me through DK Production).

Make it fun and flirty. If something awkward happens, laugh it off—but always treat his cock with respect. It's his most sensitive "weapon" or "tool"—big, strong, and delicious! (Unless he gets off on humiliation—who knows? We'll cover that another day.) It doesn't matter if you can't deepthroat; just having it in your mouth or licking and kissing it is amazing for him because it shows you appreciate his impressive equipment. It's way sexier to master handling the cock and give a wet, passionate, soft blowjob than to swallow it whole but scrape with teeth and lack rhythm. Be gentle, learn the technique, then go for it.

And remember, not all guys think porn-style blowjobs are the hottest! Many prefer something slow, intimate, warm, and wet. So before you worry about being a porn star, communicate about desires—yours and his. Fun fact: In some ancient cultures, like Rome, only men of high status were "allowed" to receive oral sex—it was seen as a power move!

Gentle Teasing of the Balls and Surrounding Area

Preferences vary wildly from guy to guy, just like with women.

Just because one man loves having his balls licked—or even prostate play with fingers or vibrators—doesn't mean everyone does. Feel your way and talk about it. Try gently stroking the balls, kissing them, maybe licking them, and watch for his reaction—you'll know if he likes it. :D Most guys enjoy being touched in the area, but some more than others, so ease in. And don't forget the golden rule: communication. Discuss what's hot, boundaries, and more. (Joke: Why did the balls go to the party? They heard it was going to be a "ball"—but seriously, handle with care!)

Don't overlook dirty talk, sexy outfits, candles, sultry music, maybe a glass of wine (or water if you're on a diet or alcohol-free), a hot steamy shower beforehand, and all those little things that make it an unforgettable experience. And after saying all that, remember it can also just be a 1-minute-40-second thing with morning breath and messy hair! It doesn't always have to be planned—the spontaneous is often the sexiest. But spontaneity flows better without misunderstandings when you've communicated needs, desires, and boundaries upfront.

Deepthroat

Take it easy! :P You'll get there, superstar—practice makes perfect! Start solo with a soft dildo. It'll be easier with a real cock, but it's good to practice first. Once you master the soft one, try a firmer one.

If you can handle your dildo without teeth, you'll rock a real cock! But first, nail all the other elements of a great blowjob. It's far more important that it feels amazing than that it's deep!

Deepthroating can be an intense experience for both, but it can also be unpleasant if the giver lacks knowledge or training. So take it slow—you have a lifetime to improve! And it can be uncomfortable if the receiver doesn't get that the giver is in control, not pushing the head down. That's a gross trend, in my opinion. (Fun fact: Deepthroating became "famous" thanks to 1970s porn, but in reality, only about 1 in 3 people can do it comfortably without gagging— you're not alone if it's not your jam!)

Again, anything can be a fantasy for both of you, so if you both want it rough—with a bit of head-pressing, spit, and smeared makeup—why not? But ONLY if it's mutual. Personally, I don't like being pushed on the head; it's not normal for me in a regular blowjob to have a cock forced down my throat! If you're one of those guys with that habit, pause and see if the giver doesn't give an even better blowjob when left in control of your otherwise magnificent magic wand! :D (Joke: Why did the wizard refuse a blowjob? He didn't want anyone messing with his wand—control issues!)

If I want you to take control during sex, I'll say something like, "Use me and shove your cock down my throat." Or I'll guide your hand and give a knowing look like, "Okay, now you can take over!"

But safe sex requires communication—the clearer you are, the better chance of getting what you want.

Back to why it can be awesome: It can push boundaries and even cause a little discomfort, but done right, it releases huge pleasure for both. The topic is so big it deserves its own guide—we'll do that later.

Until then, check out a great guide at BadGirlsBible.com.

Should I Swallow? Yes, If You Want To—Otherwise, Absolutely Not.

Anyone with self-respect will respect you! You should only do what feels right within your boundaries.

Those boundaries are about what you find hot, sexy, and exciting. If it feels gross or doubtful, say no thanks! Simple as that.

You should NEVER—and I mean this in all caps because I'm dead serious—do anything that doesn't feel right or makes you uncomfortable. You have your whole life! Time to research, explore on your own, evolve. Figure out if it's even something you want before trying it "just because." There are always bigger consequences to saying yes too much than no too little when it comes to your limits! Fuck what others think, do, feel, or say.

We all have different desires and boundaries, and we only push them when we feel ready and safe. If you don't like swallowing, I'm sure the receiver appreciates you respecting your own desires—and respecting yourself. There are tons of sexy places to cum! Fun fact: In some ancient cultures, swallowing semen was believed to impart strength or virility—talk about a "power shot"!

Is he obsessed with your ass? Your feet? Your breasts? Or something else? Playfully encourage him to cum there instead! Like, "Oh fuck, your cock is so delicious! It'd be so hot if you came all over my ass"—then turn around, shake it a bit, look back and say, "Mmm, do you want to? Cum on my ass for me" boom—one glazed ass later! :P You can redirect without killing the vibe or the climax. (Joke: Why did the donut refuse to swallow? It was already glazed—okay, bad one, but you get the idea!)

Of course, many guys find swallowing super hot—there's something dominant about it—and if you're sometimes submissive, you might get as turned on by it as he does. But again, not all guys are into it; I've talked to plenty who think it's a weird trend. So if it's not you, skip it!

Though simple answers aren't my forte, this one is straightforward: Swallow if you want to, and don't if you don't.

Personally, I don't always feel like it, which makes it special when I do. :D Then I go all in with deep, intense sucking, multi-hand techniques, and a thorough draining. :P You don't wear a ball gown and stilettos every day, right? But when you do, you add makeup, jewelry, and an updo to match!

Let everyday be everyday, and go all out occasionally!

In the Shower

I personally love giving blowjobs in the shower—spit, cum, everything rinses right away, and it's all clean throughout. :P (Plus, no cleanup crew needed—nature's own rinse cycle!)

You can use the showerhead to tease, wash his cock, wash yourself in front of him while touching him and yourself. It's naughty, wet, and intimate. Fun fact: Water-based fun like this has been a favorite since ancient times—think Roman baths, but with a modern twist!
So there you have it, my darlings—your crash course (or should I say "splash" course? ) in the art of the blowjob, packed with tips, tricks, and a healthy dose of humor to keep things light and steamy. Remember, the real magic happens when it's all about mutual fun, consent, and that electric connection. Whether you're going slow and sensual or turning up the heat with some deepthroat daring, always prioritize what feels right for you and your partner. Practice, communicate, and most importantly, enjoy the ride!

So there you have it, my darlings—your crash course (or should I say "splash" course? ) in the art of the blowjob, packed with tips, tricks, and a healthy dose of humor to keep things light and steamy. Remember, the real magic happens when it's all about mutual fun, consent, and that electric connection. Whether you're going slow and sensual or turning up the heat with some deepthroat daring, always prioritize what feels right for you and your partner. Practice, communicate, and most importantly, enjoy the ride!

If this got your wheels turning, stay tuned for more unfiltered chats on all things sex, life, and everything in between. Until next time, keep it playful, positive, and positively pleasurable.

Remember: Great sex is all about mutual fun and connection—play boldly with life's pleasures, but never toy with your boundaries. Respect them, explore safely, and let the joy flow for everyone involved!

Lots of love,
Denice K
xoxo